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by casscomerford • November 13th, 2009 • posted in Contest, Life List, NaBloPoMo

Last night I was falling to sleep and I was thinking that my list was missing something (well it’s missing lots but this one thing is pretty important).  My list is missing a catalyst – it is missing the ATM passcode to let some of these bigger dreams happen.  It’s missing a sponsor.  So I decided to dream this up:

Real Simple magazine contacts me and says ‘We want to watch and be a part of your list happening so we’re going to give you an online blog at Real Simple and a monthly column where you write about your life list and the value that it’s brought into your life.  We want the whole thing.  If you’re feeling down or not believing we want that – if you’re feeling high on life and possibilities we want that too.  We want other Real Simple readers to embrace the idea of a life list and we want to be THE magazine that gives people the inspiration and the know how to get there.’ And I say ‘YES’.  I don’t fret about it – I don’t worry about failing – I don’t make excuses for why I’m deserving or not deserving – I just graciously accept this awesome opportunity and I do everything I possibly can to make other peoples life lists happen along the way.  Because that’s what it’s all about – this living thing – you have to have a life, have dreams and be part of other peoples lives and dreams.

I have a question for you – do you  have a life list?  do you believe in dreams?  do you believe in YOUR dreams?

**To reward you for these hard questions I’m going to have a little contest – one random commenter will win a $50 Starbucks gift card to celebrate the Peppermint Mocha that I love (even when it’s Decaf ).  Winner will be picked on Monday morning at 10am EST – because making Monday better is on my list.**

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  • Joan Maness Hardin: November 13th, 2009 at 8:44am

    My dream is to lose 80 lbs. and to find a job, maybe a hubby.

  • Becca: November 13th, 2009 at 9:26am

    I don't necessarily have a "life" list. I just know that I want a family and husband to love and be loved by, a nice house that feels like a home, and the basics to get by. At this point I have all- (well not husband-I guess I will have to just ask him)of those things. My dreams really only include that list and what I can do to ensure that we are all happy and healthy. I believe in dreams- sadly, not mine. I mean I know people do things all the time they thought impossible but I think "not me". Its sad really because I WISH I had the feeling like I could do anything. I get feeling overwhelmed and then think "how am I ever going to accomplish this?" I get defeated before I even start. SO I guess I should focus on what I DO have and thankfully, I am.

  • Bessie.viola: November 13th, 2009 at 9:26am

    I have a partially-complete life list. One of my dreams is that it will NEVER be complete - I'll always be growing, changing, and adding to the list. My big dream - the one that scares me to speak it aloud - is that I will one day be a published novelist, one who helps people through her words. I believe in this dream. I am taking the steps to make it happen. Whether it comes true or not is almost irrelevant because it is the CHASE I love.

  • AndreAnna: November 13th, 2009 at 9:36am

    My dream is to one day have enough money in the bank that I'm not worried. Getting by just isn't enough anymore. I want to travel the world. I want to raise good people. I want that ice tea on the sun porch holding my husband's hand ending. Ok, let's face it, the tea is spiked, but still.

  • Connie: November 13th, 2009 at 9:38am

    I never had a list unti I took on the responsibility of my parents. My list started as taking care of my dad and grant him the wish of passing away at home. I worked and took care of him full time. Making sure all his needs were met. Now since dad is gone just 3 yrs. next on my list is taking care of Mom and doing the same for her. This time the list is longer because I have more responsibilities. I do believe in dreams. They help us to get through our daily lives. I want to believe in my dreams of having good health, financial freedom. I try to believe in one day my life will not be a struggle.

  • Kristin: November 13th, 2009 at 9:40am

    My dream is to spend some good, quality time with my husband. Not that fleeting "let's go have dinner and then do stuff for the kids" but a real vacation. Because after almost 20 years together (11 married) and 4 kids, I'd like to STILL be married to him when the kids move out and start their own lives. I'd like us to remember why the heck we fell in love in the first place.

  • Michelle Smiles: November 13th, 2009 at 11:02am

    I do believe in dreams. I used to have a life list of sorts...a list of goals and things that I was going to make happen. But I found that as I got older and life started to unfold, my focus on that list was constricting - I wasn't allowing things to unfold as they might naturally because I was trying to make my life conform to my goal list. If I had stuck to that, my life would be hugely different...and likely not so happy. Now I have a list in my head...and it is very short and very general and very flexible. I want to get my masters in social work (unless something more interesting presents itself) because my other masters is rather useless. I want to raise healthy, happy, smart children. I want to remain involved with my children even though I will return to work when they start school. My mom wasn't able to attend anything and I couldn't participate in anything because she wasn't available to drive me - I want to do that differently. I want to make sure my marriage remains a priority and doesn't get lost in carpooling and PTO. I want to make traveling a part of my life again when the girls get older - both for me and to expose them to the world. I don't want to forget me - I will not allow myself to lose the person that I am in taking care of others. That's it. General. Short. Flexible. Because that is what works for me.

  • Julie: November 13th, 2009 at 2:06pm

    My life list is mental, but I think I will write it down ... make it more real. Hopefully I will be more motivated to take action. Thanks!

  • Wendi: November 13th, 2009 at 2:39pm

    I definitely have a life list. It involves the quest for balance between family, career and self. So far I've only been able to satisfy one at a time. My dream is to have all 3 at once.

  • Anne: November 13th, 2009 at 2:41pm

    I guess I don't really have a life list of things I want to do or accomplish. There are things there, in the back of my head rolling around that I'd like to experience during my lifetime, but no formal list. However, there ARE three things that I've always said I really really want to do, and they are: 1. Go to a taping of Oprah (I accomplished this last October, AND I got to talk to Oprah!!) 2. Go to Hawaii. 3. Go on a ride-along in a police car.

  • Dee: November 13th, 2009 at 2:43pm

    I've never actually sat down and made a list, but I do have lots of dreams. My #1 right now is to be able to call myself a photographer. I'm trying to make that happen.

  • Lisa: November 13th, 2009 at 2:48pm

    I am a mom of 3. I am organized, like things to go smoothly. I have dreams of finsihing school ( i am in college now about 1/2 way done), buying a house, a better car, having money saved for my kids for college. I believe everyone has a right to dream and if you work hard it could come true!!!!

  • Lisa: November 13th, 2009 at 2:54pm

    I have a list- in my head somewhere. On this list is having the time to write this list down :) I am dreams...big ones and small ones and some really BIG ones.... LOVE your blog, BTW. My daughter Annie was born in August, right after Lexi, so I love reading about your little girl and seeing her beautiful pictures. Thank you for making me think about this!

  • Lisa: November 13th, 2009 at 2:58pm

    I have a life list- in my head! On this list is finding time to put my list down- on paper! I have dreams/goals. Right now one of the things I keep thinking a lot about is going back to school to get a PhD- but with two little ones, that is still many, many years away. I love your blog, BTW. My daughter, Annie, was born in august right after Lexi, so I love reading about your beautiful little girl and seeing your amazing pictures of her. Thanks for making me think!

  • Melissa: November 13th, 2009 at 3:44pm

    1. Do you have a life list? I absolutely have a life list. I would like to get through medical school and figure out what type of doctor I want to be. I want to get a good residency position and be successful in my field. I want to find a nice country boy who is respectful and knows how to change a tire WITHOUT calling AAA. It would be nice to have a big house in a rural area with good schools. I would like to have kids (I'm aiming for 5). But most importantly I want my family to be health, happy, and be well cared for. Do I believe in dreams? Yes- at the risk of sounding like Cinderella- a dream is a wish your heart makes. I've had enough come true that I do believe that they can happen. Usually it requires a little effort on my part- but I believe they can come true with a little help from someone up-above. Do I believe in MY dreams? Kind of. I think I'm dreaming of a lot, but then there's that whole shoot-for-the-moon-and-land-among-the-stars kind of thinking. I recently had one dream smashed into smithereens but another prospect quickly emerged. As Julie Andrews said: "When God closes a door, somewhere he opens a window." Fantastic idea Cassie!

  • Sarah Schroeder: November 13th, 2009 at 5:37pm

    I am currently dreaming about Hawaii (we leave tomorrow) But lately I have been dreaming about a remodeled/new kitchen, perhaps some day going back to teaching, our family camp Winni that I have missed for 4 summers in a row, fitting in clothes I wore before having kids...I could go on and on.

  • Nicola Bradburn Fuller: November 13th, 2009 at 10:28pm

    I believe in my dreams...always have and always will. It keeps me going. It's my fire. I have had a life list since high school some items I have accomplished, others I am still striving to achieve. I want to travel and speak several foreign languages while raising two good kids and juggling an enjoyable career. Your blog has compelled me to update and solidify them again. Thank you, Cass.

  • Lina Anuszkiewicz: November 13th, 2009 at 11:16pm

    No life list. Absolutely believe in dreams and I definitely believe in my dreams...the good ones will come true!

  • Bethany: November 14th, 2009 at 12:24am

    I have a list. I have dreams and I believe in them and believe they are important. Twenty-two years after graduating from high school I am in college. Ok, so being laid off from my job helped but soon I can add college graduate to my list!

  • Sandy: November 14th, 2009 at 8:09am

    My list begins and ends with family. I dreamed that some day I would live closer to my parents again, and that came true last year. I dream that some day I will be able to stay home and watch grandbabies whenever I want. I have the grandbabies just need to figure out how to not work. I dream that I will live closer to my daughter, I think that would mean I am moving to make that dream come true. You never know what will happen. I dream of my children being happy with their lives. I think they are pretty darn close, at least I hope so. My dream is to be cancer free for the rest of my life. Do I have a list, not written but the prayers that I say everyday are my dreams and my hopes. I have a wooden box that doesn't open. My prayers go in and God takes care of them. He will do the same for you if you let him.

  • Diane Haight: November 14th, 2009 at 9:29am

    After I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer at 36, time took on a different meaning. First I rushed to make a life list, go to Italy, leanr to make balloon animals etc. but as I looked at the list I realized that the most important things weren't always 'listable', my husband, my son, my health. So while I still have ths List with Italy at the top I try to do something new each day, like drive down a street in my town I have never seen, stop at a coffee shop I have never been in,and enjoy each moment.

  • Ellipses: November 14th, 2009 at 9:48am

    I have a list, but it was just for 2009. My mom has been dealing with cancer, my father in law was laid off from a great job AND had a heart attack and my husband had a job that just, well, sucked. My list was for my father in law to get a job, my hubby to get a better job, and my mom to have surgery to get heal her. it's all happened. my mom is going in for surgery in December - my husband got promoted way up and into another department that he loves, and my father in law got the job back from the same company he was laid off from & everyone couldn't be happier. Life lists are important but I think sometimes we have to look to the daily situations that we can make better. Thanks for letting me put this out here & I look forward to reading your posts on the Real Simple site!

  • Aimee: November 15th, 2009 at 10:16am

    Dreams. They come true when you have faith in them. I truly feel like if you put it out to the universe that you are one step closer to it. My dream is to be spiritually sound. To feel completely connected. No questions, no yearning, just sound. To be able to teach others how to do this, and to write about it. All of my other dreams can come true from this. As i think my journey has been a bundle of "was this my dream--did I really want this" or "is this enough", after one comes true. When you are trekking on a spiritual journey you are always yearning for something more, something bigger. Until that...I will ALWAYS have a list.

  • Steph The WonderWorrier: November 15th, 2009 at 8:48pm

    Not sure if I can qualify for the contest since I'm Canadian, but I'll comment anyway! I haven't made a life list like yours, but you're certainly inspiring me to try! Right now, the theme of my list would be: "get started". Start my career, start a hefty savings account, start planning a wedding, start a married life, buy my 'starter home', start a family. Those are my immediate goals. I also have lots of places I want to see, so travelling a lot is on the list too! I do believe in my dreams, I think we SHOULD always try to dream BIG! I think I will try, in the near future, to also list my "bigger" goals, the type that might seem unattainable, but I should reach for them anyway (like yours!!). Thanks for the idea!

  • Morgan: November 15th, 2009 at 9:34pm

    I have a life list. I've actually put it in our fireproof lock box, it has about 60 things on it. I believe in dreams, too, because in some ways I think our dreams can tell us things about ourselves we don't realize or know. :)