I use my bullet journal to keep track of my entire life. Without it I would be lost…or at least forgetting dozens of things each day. Interested in getting started? Here’s what I use:
- Moleskine notebook – I’ve gone back and forth on the hard cover and the soft cover versions. In the end I’ve landed on the soft cover version (found here:Moleskine Volant Notebook). I like this version the best because at 96 pages it’s perfect for a months worth of writing for me.
- I love writing utensils so much. But this Zebra Stylus Pen is my hands down favorite. I love how it writes, I love the cap, and I really like the stylus at the end for when I’m writing a note on my phone or iPad.
- The starter webpage on Bullet Journal
I love that you can make this process your own. I adore that I have access to all my old day-to-day notes for historical purposes. I really appreciate that I’m not carrying a whole years worth of planner and I have plenty of room for each day.
Here’s some more on the nitty gritty of how I organize my Bullet Journal.
- I have pages at the back of the book for meals that we eat regularly and meals I want to try. This is a great reference point for planning meals each week.
- Idea / Notes pages: I have them at the back of the book as well. At the end of each notebook I figure out if the idea needs to get moved to the next notebook or actioned on at a date in the future.
- I use two pages per sheet. On the right hand side of the page I list all of my to-do’s for the day. On the left hand side of the page I plan my menu, Lexi’s activities, meetings, errands, grocery list and my daily food log.
How do you have time to do it all? Do you sleep? I want to know EXACTLY how you’re doing all of this.
Today, I’m going to answer that question…
I do not do it all.
There are lots of things I don’t do. Some of those things I feel good about (like curbing my tv addiction) and some of them not so good about (regular workouts….not so much). There was an aha moment for me a few years ago when I was a single Mom with a two cats and a dog and a two year old: you can not do it all right now. You physically can not. And that’s okay. This is just not the season for certain things – and hopefully, if you want them to happen at some point in the future, there WILL be a season for them. It’s just not now. You can get over it now and enjoy what IS on the table – or you can waste time fretting.
Waste time sometimes.
Sometimes I don’t feel like doing anything. So I don’t. I know that sounds simple and it is. It would be easy to punish myself and force myself to do something…but I’d hate it and then I’d be seeking a reward that is NOT in line with the task. For example if I want to be doing nothing but I force myself to empty the dishwasher (I loathe this task) and then load it up again I will want to treat myself with about 5 reeces peanut butter eggs. This is not good for me.
Bullet Journal – 4-life.
Unaware of what a Bullet Journal is? Check out this intro. Want amazing resources and hear more about how one of my favorite people loves her Bullet Journal – go visit Kim at Zoot.com and tell her I said she’s freaking amazing. I like paper – I love pens – I ADORE lists (they are my favorite thing in the entire world) and the Bullet Journal makes sure that I have everything that I need in one simple moleskine notebook.
I prepare for the week and put everything (literally everything) that I need to remember on each day’s page (I do a slight variation with 2 pages per day because I need lots of room for notes from meetings).
It doesn’t matter what your system is though – as long as it’s working for you. My friend Kristin abhors lists…she likes the list maker in me and I respect the heck out of the fact that she remembers to do anything! The point is: it’s not about the list or the bullet journal it’s about finding the way that you are accountable to what must get done.
Delegate. And then let people do it their way.
The reality is people like to help. You have to let them. Appreciate how they do what they do. Be grateful. And be mindful about what you’re asking of others. Lessons I’ve learned in delegating:
- If you ask someone to do something and then you do it yourself you hurt their feelings. The message you’re sending is I couldn’t rely on you to do this. Your intention is likely more like: I didn’t want to bother you. But that’s just not how it feels.
- Don’t delegate things you’re crazy particular about. I like to fold my own laundry. I like how I do it. I like the repetition of the task. And I like the victory of all the socks matching. To delegate this would be to set someone up for failure.
- Don’t micro-manage. When you delegate the objective is to get something done. There are a million different ways to do something. I tried to micromanage Lexi’s fancy folding of the napkins. This hurt her feelings and really it mattered so little. People are going to do things their own way. Let them. Maybe the heart shape napkins will make you smile!
Question: I was thinking of doing a little tour of my Bullet Journal. Would this interest you? You let me know and I’ll make it happen.
The other day Lex asked me if she could have a snack about 3 minutes after she had declared that she was STUFFED from lunch. This is a very normal occurrence in our house. Normally my answer is: I’m happy to let you finish your lunch – until then, sorry lady not happening. And then she said: “I don’t even know why I asked!”
I stopped mid-bite. Something had to be said. Right that second. And a million times over for the rest of her life.
You ask for what you want. That is AMAZING. Do that. Always always always DO that. Because the worst thing that can happen is someone will say No or nothing at all. And while no is not the best thing in the world:
There’s no room for Yes if you don’t accept the risk of No.
Ask for the seat at the table. Ask for the food that you want. Ask for the raise. Ask for the life you want. Ask for friendship. Ask for what you need. Go after what you want. Ask.
There are way too many little girls in this world that can not ask. They don’t live in places where Asking is allowed for them. Ask FOR them too.
Sometimes people think that power is held in our answers. But I don’t believe that’s true. I think power is held in our questions. I’m going to say that again for Lex because girl needs repitition.
The power is in our questions.
So ask. Do it today.
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